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Help!

Thursday 20 March 2008 - 6.32pm

Ok so tell me if I'm overreacting or something, cos I feel like crap.

Alex and I had planned to go out and return our dvds then go have dinner and get groceries. We planned to do this at 6pm. So at 6pm I ask Alex if he's ready to go soon and he says no and that Brian's coming too. I simply stated that I would have liked to have known that our plans had changed (not by much but the whole mode of transport and the fact that someone else is coming too), and he totally blows up at me telling me not to nag him constantly and that I never let him do anything on his own. Yet it was HIS decision to go out tonight. HE was the one who asked me.

I don't think a little respect and just a "hey, Brian's going to give us a ride and come with us" is too much to ask. I wouldn't have minded one little bit. But now Alex is completely mad at me and I'm not really sure why.

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heather : 3:39pm - Thursday 20 March 2008 #

I think I would have looked at it as something nice to do together alone if I had been asked specifically as is the case here and I certainly would have been disappointed that someone else was coming along. Having said that, I dont see how him giving you loads of warning or telling you just then really matters too much coz you would have been disappointed either way right?

I think he has over reacted a little. It might not be you he is really upset at, he may just be tired, have issues with other people/things and your comment was more of a 'straw that broke the camel's back' situation?

I am sure it will calm down if you leave him to himself a little. If not, then you might want to talk to him and ask if he really feels that way about nagging him/not allowing him time alone coz these things are often better sorted than left simmering.

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tracy : 4:38pm - Thursday 20 March 2008 #

I think it was just stress on his part. I wouldn't have been too disappointed as Brian has been away for 3 weeks. I like to know these things and what's going on cos I hate feeling out of control of events involving myself.

In the end, funnily enough, he ended up asking me again if I wanted to go and it was just the two of us. We went and had dinner and dessert (two different places) and he said that he needed some comfort food due to the stress of him waiting around to hear back from several job interviews. I've been trying to help him with his stress all week as his current job (which he's on holiday from) is pure evil and he really doesn't want to go back.

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